If you’ve received a “hey you” text from a guy, then I can certainly see why you feel he is being very flirt with you.
After all, when a guy says “hey you” then he is most certainly being flirty with you, whether it is in person or through text.
However, context is going to matter here. Let’s talk more about this as well as how you can respond to this flirty phrase.
“Hey You” Meaning (In Texting And In Person)
In a nutshell, you can consider the “hey you” phrase from a guy to be something flirty that he says to you. It’s direct and allows you to respond in a wide variety of ways.
I’ve always personally loved hearing that from a guy, especially when we’ve already connected and shared quite a few special moments.
With that being said, let’s now take a look at the context and how to perceive this when it’s through text, or in person.
1) “Hey You” In Texting
While texting “hey you” can be considered friendly, it’s a great way to kick off more flirty texts with you. It’s a great way to flirt without being overtly obvious about doing so.
For example, a guy could have always gone with a more obvious opener such as:
- hey sexy
- hey honey
- hey sweety
However, sometimes these can be a hit or miss and the guy won’t want to take that risk.
Rather instead, saying “hey you” is a much safer way to begin the conversation while setting the tone for the rest of your interaction.
On the other hand, saying “hey you” could always be something that the guy opens with when he texts a girl.
Still, he’s probably not going to be texting you if he wasn’t all that interested in the first place. So you can certainly consider “hey you” to be flirty from a guy.
2) “Hey You” In Person
It’s much easier to identify if “hey you” is flirty in person. You want to take note of the guy’s body language, as well as his facial expressions in the process.
Here are some positive things to take note of when he says “hey you”:
- Is he smiling?
- Is he completely facing you with his body?
- Is he making an attempt to hold eye contact?
These are all big signs that his opening of “hey you” is a friendly yet flirty way to start a conversation with you.
You also want to see if he is continuing to banter with you after saying “hey you”. For example:
- Does he tease you?
- Does he jokingly poke fun at you?
- Does he continue to smile during the conversation?
- Does he lightly make contact and break the touch barrier with you?
As you can guess, the more that he continues to flirt with you in person, the easier it is to see that his initial “hey you” was, in fact, only the beginning of being able to flirt with you.
On the other hand, there are instances where “hey you” is more so used just to get your attention, and it’s usually not in a good way.
This will be pretty obvious to you if it happens, and here are a few examples of what he can followup with after saying “hey you”:
- …I’m going to need you to change seats with me.
- …I’m going to need you to visit next week instead.
- …I’m going to need you to (insert any type of action here).
I think you get the idea, but in scenarios like this, he will open up with “hey you” only to get your attention so that he can tell you something that is important (and most likely not flirty).
Once again, it all comes down to context. The good thing about hearing this phrase in person is the fact that the context becomes so much easier to spot.
But if him opening with “hey you” feels flirty, and then it still feels like he’s going down that flirty road in the conversation? Then he is certainly being flirty with you.
Feel free to flirt back with him. If you’re interested in him, of course.
How To Reply To The “Hey You” Text From A Guy
The great thing about receiving a flirty “hey you” text from a guy is the fact that he’s placed the ball in your court, and there are plenty of options for you to reply with.
First, let’s start with a few great responses that you should use if you are interested in flirting back with the guy. Here are a few examples for you:
- Speak of the devil 😉
- I was just thinking about you…
- So you missed me already, huh? 😉
- Hey! Stop thinking about me so much 😉
- Took you long enough to finally text me 😉
- Well well well, look who the cat dragged in 🙂
- Hey stranger, took you long enough to get in contact 🙂
If you’ll notice one thing about the examples above, is that most of them are flirty and friendly. You also have the text (added down below again) that will spark a lot of curiosity for the guy.
I was just thinking about you…
That’s a text that you’re going to want to use if you plan on driving his imagination wild, especially for the fact that you can also make him work for what you were thinking about.
On the other hand, there are many responses that you can use if you’re not interested in flirting with the guy. Here are a few examples:
- What’s up?
- hey (name)
- How are you?
There’s also the dreaded one-word text response that guys can be notorious for using: hey. I’ll have an article down below that talks more about the subject.
Related: Responding To One-Word Texts From Guys.
If you’ll notice anything about these responses is the fact that they lack friendliness and any type of thought. This sends the subconscious message that you aren’t exactly interested in reciprocating the act of flirting.
I also did a complete article (down below) about responding to unwanted flirty texts if you’d like some more information about that topic.
Highly Related: Responding To Unwanted Flirty Texts.
At the end of the day, it should be pretty easy to decipher if he’s being flirty with his “hey you” text, especially when given more context and diving deeper into the conversation.
The great thing about this opener is the fact that you get complete control about where you’d like to take the conversation. To flirt, or not to flirt back… that is the question.