To unblock or keep your ex blocked? That is the question.
The answer to unblocking your ex isn’t always going to be an easy one, especially when you consider how the relationship might have ended in the first place.
Let’s talk more about the reasons as to why may or may not want to unblock your ex.
Should I Unblock My Ex? Is It The Right Thing To Do?
Unblocking your ex can certainly be the right thing to do, but you need to make sure that you have a valid reason for doing so.
For example, you’d never want to unblock an ex if they were toxic and treated you like dirt. That would only allow them back into your life, where they don’t belong.
With that in mind, let’s talk more about if an ex was toxic, as well as a few more reasons why you may or may not want to unblock your ex.
1) Was Your Ex Toxic?
Before you go to unblock your ex, it is imperative that you ask yourself if they were toxic in the relationship. If the answer is YES, then do NOT unblock them.
I’ve seen so many guys and girls who can’t help but miss their ex so much, only for them to jump back into the arms of their heavily toxic ex.
What comes of this? Back to basics, or in other words, back to the same toxic relationship.
While it can be very tempting to want to jump back into how great things were with your ex, you need to evaluate the possibility that the relationship might have been just too toxic.
The more toxic that your ex (or overall relationship) was, the more reason for you to not unblock your ex as that will only open up a can of worms.
2) Have You Or Your Ex Found Someone New?
If you or your ex has already started dating someone else, or they are in a relationship with someone else, then you certainly should NOT unblock them.
I know I know, sometimes the only way to see if they are dating someone else is to unblock and snoop their social media. However, there are plenty of other ways to figure this out:
- Word of mouth.
- Your group of friends.
- Your ex’s friends that you might still talk to.
- You might even bump into your ex in public places.
But the fact of the matter is this. If you know, for a fact, that your ex has already found someone else and moved on? Then 100% you should not unblock them.
This is a big mistake for quite a few reasons:
- They are already taken.
- They have moved on from you.
- This can cause problems with their new significant other.
I’m sure that you’ve seen the situation before. Someone gets a new significant other, yet they are still talking to their ex on the side.
It can make for some awkward, weird, and very distrusting moments.
As difficult as it might be, definitely don’t unblock your ex if they are dating someone else. They’ve moved on and you should too.
3) Is There Still Potential Left In The Relationship?
So there wasn’t any toxicity in the relationship and there’s still a lot of potential in your relationship? Then yeah, you should certainly consider unblocking your ex.
Sometimes relationships end prematurely. Someone gets mad, says the wrong thing, and then storms off while simultaneously ending things.
Relationships are complicated, and I completely get it.
Despite how tough the breakup was for you, it’s important to identify if there is still any potential left in the relationship. You also need to kind of ask yourself if your ex felt the same way.
What I mean by still having potential in your relationship, is this:
- Can both of you still be amicable?
- Can you ignore your biggest differences?
- Can you get over the problems that keep occurring?
The more that you can answer “Yes” to the questions above, the better the potential for your future relationship moving forward.
Potential also can mean the number of fun activities and adventures that you could go on with them in the future as well.
Overall, do you feel like your relationship was cut way too short? Then go ahead and unblock them, as there is still plenty of great directions that you could take this relationship.
4) Do You (Or Your Ex) Have Something Important To Say?
If you are going to unblock your ex, then make sure that you have something very important to say to them. Don’t unblock them just to unblock them.
Have you ever been blocked, only to be unblocked and then left wondering what the heck is going on? I have been before, and it was a truly awkward moment as my ex ended up never saying anything.
You don’t want to play mental games with your ex, especially for the fact that they’ve already been blocked for a certain amount of time.
If you plan on unblocking them, make sure that you (or they) have something important to say or talk about. Examples include:
- Missing the other person.
- You or your ex explaining.
- Telling the other person how much they mean to them.
- Apologizing for something that went wrong in the relationship.
- Or maybe you have to contact them that way to ask for your stuff back.
The above mini list includes a few of the best reasons when it comes to having something important to say. If you have anything else that is very important to say, then definitely unblock your ex.
5) Do Either Of You Truly Still Care?
It might be hard to tell if your ex still cares about you, but if you don’t care at all? Then there is no point in unblocking them.
You can consider this to be a bonus tip, as it’s almost a combination of everything else that has been mentioned in this article so far. For example:
- One of you shouldn’t be interested if already with a new significant other.
- Neither of you would care if there wasn’t any potential left in the relationship.
- Neither of you should care if there isn’t anything important to tell the other person.
- Neither of you should care about reforming a toxic relationship (if that was the case).
And why would either of you care if there is nothing important to say? The point I’m making here, which I stated recently, is that you shouldn’t unblock your ex just to unblock your ex.
If you know for a fact that you or your ex still really care, then definitely unblock them and turn to the conversation.
Should I Unblock My Ex If I Want Them Back? Final Words
If you want your ex back and you feel like you had a great thing going on, then you’ll certainly want to consider unblocking your ex.
Just keep in mind that there are a lot of thoughts and emotions going on in your ex’s head. So depending on how long it’s been since you two have broken up, it might be awkward at first.
Lastly, you should certainly not unblock them if you feel like they were a very toxic person. If that was the case, then they can happily and forever stay blocked on all of your social media accounts; where they belong.