You’re girlfriend always seems to hide your relationship, so is that good or bad?
She actually has plenty of good reasons as to why she would hide your relationship, and then there are a few more reasons, which get a little sketchy.
Let’s talk about all of the context and possibilities when it comes to why she does this.
Why Is My Girlfriend Keeping Our Relationship A Secret?
She’s most likely keeping your relationship hidden because she is a private type of girl, or there is something else going on that you’re unaware of.
First and foremost, there is no need to panic if you feel like your blossoming relationship is being hidden from anyone that she comes in contact with.
It’s important that you give her the benefit of the doubt, at least until you find out that there is some type of hidden agenda (which can be a possibility).
Let’s talk about some of the positive reasons as to why she might be keeping your relationship a secret, and then we’ll dive into some of the negative reasons for doing so.
1) Your Girlfriend Is Private
One of the biggest (and most positive) reasons for keeping your relationship a secret, is the fact that she’s very private about the important things in her life.
It’s nothing against you, but you need to consider that your girlfriend might just be the overall private type of girl. Can you blame her?
Think about what can happen if she was constantly posting about you on:
- Posting on TikTok.
- Posting on Facebook.
- Posting on Instagram.
- Or just posting on any type of big online platform.
Doing so comes with the ability for drama, haters, and creeps to come out of the woodwork.
She probably doesn’t want to deal with all of that unnecessary drama, and if she is the private type of person, then your personal relationship is no one else’s business.
2) There’s A Conflict On Interest With Work
While it’s not a big possibility, it is an option that her work might not approve of the fact that she’s in a relationship.
Let’s get right into it with quite a few reasons as to why her job wouldn’t approve of having a relationship, and why she would keep it private because of it.
Also, before listing off a few reasons, feel free to skip this if you know this isn’t the reason for hiding your relationship, or she doesn’t currently have a job:
- Her job demands a lot of her time.
- You are co-workers and it’s against the rules.
- People might treat her differently if they know about the relationship.
Plus, you can always go back to the original reason for her being private, and your relationship might not be any of her fellow coworker’s business. That’s a good thing.
3) She Doesn’t Want Her Parents To Know
She might want to hide your relationship because she has very strict parents, and there could be consequences if they found out.
This is a very strong reason for her wanting to hide the status of your relationship, but also something that you most likely be aware of (if it was the reason).
Just think about all of the reasons as to why her parents wouldn’t want her in a relationship:
- She’s too young.
- Her parents are controlling.
- She’s worried about your reputation.
- She thinks that they might not like you.
When you think about it, not telling her parents could be the central reason behind why she wants to hide your relationship.
If she’s really trying to hide it from her parents, then she ultimately can’t tell anyone because it can always come back around to her parents. As the popular phrase states:
What goes around, comes around.
And she certainly might not want that news coming back around to her parents, especially if they didn’t want her to be in a relationship in the first place.
4) She Recently Came Out Of A Different Relationship
If your girlfriend recently came out of a different relationship, then that’s a good reason as to why she keeps your relationship a secret.
On one hand, hiding her relationship, for this reason, could be completely harmless. She might have gone through a lot of heartache and hasn’t made the relationship “official” to others yet.
Plus, she might not want to deal with a lot of negative comments that she might hear in the process:
- Talk about a rebound.
- Another day. Another relationship.
- Didn’t you just get out of a relationship?
- Well, here comes yet another toxic relationship.
People, as well as friends, can certainly be brutal when it comes to giving their “thoughtful opinions” to her, especially when they can hide behind their computers on social media.
This is where we start getting into the reasons where you might not want to give your girlfriend the benefit of the doubt here.
After all, there is the possibility that she might still have feelings for her ex (if she was in a relationship recently).
If that was the case, then it makes perfect sense as she wouldn’t want her ex to know that she found a boyfriend, as that could cause a ton of drama (for a lot of people).
5) Your Girlfriend Is Seeing Someone Else
One of the worst reasons for hiding your relationship status is for the fact that she might be someone else or still dating around.
As much as I hate to write this as a reason, it’s always a possibility and I remember when a guy friend of mine got hurt in college because a girl was doing this exactly.
- The guy was considered to be in a relationship with a specific girl.
- They both agreed to be mutually exclusive and see no one else.
- He meant it, and she had zero intentions of doing so.
During that time, she never talked about how she was in a relationship with the guy and ended up seeing quite a few other guys during the process. It was a trainwreck.
To add the cherry on top, when he found out about what she doing, she turned it all around and started pointing the finger at him. I felt so bad for the guy, but the warning signs were there.
So I don’t know if this is the case, but make sure that you keep on the lookout for possible warning signs of this being a reality for you. A few warning signs include:
- Hanging around many other guys.
- Constantly texting other guys (even around you).
- Wanting everything about your relationship to be private.
- Not being consistent with her word (catching her lying as well).
So this is always a possibility as to why she is hiding the relationship from others, but I sure hope that it’s not the case. It’s always good to give her the benefit of the doubt first.
6) Your Girlfriend Has Commitment Issues
While your girlfriend might have been adamant about being in a relationship with you, some might have commitment issues deep down inside that you don’t know about.
On one hand, there are a ton of great things about your relationship:
- You two click.
- You have a lot of fun together.
- It’s nothing but sunshine and butterflies (so to speak).
But there is something holding her back from sharing the fun of your relationship with everyone, and it just might be her fear of commitment. This could have come from:
- A specific toxic ex.
- Previous relationships.
- People not staying in her life.
Have you ever heard the popular phrase about relationships before?
It’s not official until it’s Facebook official.
To some girls (and guys too), it can be a big deal to let others know about the relationship that they are in. It’s one of the biggest and final steps of committing to someone, and that can be scary for her.
This can also loop around to the fact that she might prefer privacy when it comes to your relationship. Maybe she only wants the magic to be between you and her, and no one else.
7) It Can Make Things Weird With Her Kids
Last but not least, keeping her relationship hidden can be important if she happens to have any kids.
You can consider this a bonus reason as if she doesn’t have any kids, then you have nothing to worry about here.
The fact of the matter is that if she is a mom, it can make it awkward when it comes to dating someone new. After all, that new person could most likely “replace” their father.
The younger the kids are, the harder this process becomes to explain. So that’s the last bonus reason as to why she might be keeping your relationship hidden.
If she doesn’t have any kids, then you have nothing to worry about here. Nevertheless, it is a perfectly logical reason for her to want to be on the hush-hush when it comes to the relationship.
Is It Bad To Hide A Relationship? Final Words
Overall, it isn’t bad to hide a relationship, unless the person who is hiding the relationship has a hidden agenda and is up to no good.
Nowadays, I actually expect more and more people to be more private when it comes to relationships.
There are plenty of people who love broadcasting and showcasing every second of their life, and on the other hand, there are people who want no part of that lifestyle:
- They’d rather live in the moment.
- They aren’t worried about impressing their “fans” on social media.
- And they’ve figured out that they are so much happier in the process.
After all, a private life is a happy life, and that’s a motto that your girlfriend might live by, especially if she’s been hiding your relationship from others.