Should I Wish My Ex Happy Birthday During No Contact?

You came to the conclusion that no contact is going to be the best option for you two.

So it’s important that you realize wishing your ex happy birthday during no contact can actually do a lot of harm.

Let’s talk more about why you should stick with no contact during your ex’s special day.

Should You Wish Your Ex A Happy Birthday During No Contact?

should you wish your ex happy birthday during no contact

It’s a complicated situation, but it’s ultimately going to be best for the both of you if you don’t wish your ex a happy birthday during no contact.

No wishing your ex doesn’t make you a bad person, either. In fact, here are two big reasons as to why it’s a good idea to keep passing on the contact (until the no contact time is over).

1) No Contact Means No Contact

When it comes to the no contact rule, it specifies that you need to completely cut off and remove all contact with your ex during a specific period of time.

This means that you shouldn’t contact your ex in any way, shape, or form. This also means that you won’t be able to talk to them or contact them through:

  • Calling.
  • Texting.
  • Social media.
  • Speaking to them in person.
  • As well as wishing them a happy birthday.

When this specific agreement has been made that you’re not going to speak to your ex for a specific amount of time, then it’s very important that you stick to what you planned.

This will show your ex that you are being responsible during this time of no contact, and that will be a great thing if you happen to go back to speaking to each other again.

Plus, if you’re worried about what your ex will think when you don’t wish them a happy birthday?

Just let them know that you were just being mindful of the no contact rule, but you were still thinking about them.

2) You Both Need Time And Space

Another reason why you shouldn’t wish your ex a happy birthday during no contact is that you both need some time and space away from each other.

It’s been said that the no contact rule is similar to a detox, clearing your mind and giving you a better grasp of how the situation is going.

When you don’t wish your ex a happy birthday during their birthday, you allow the process to continue for them by giving them the peace of mind that they need.

Imagine if things were going great for them:

  • They were momentarily clearing the head.
  • They forgot about a lot of the big relationship problems.
  • Overall, they were almost complete resting and having a new look at things.

And then you show up on their phone, wishing them a happy birthday, and talking about the good times and how much you miss them.

It’s as if they would be dragged back to square one when it comes to the no contact rule.

All in all, one of the biggest reasons to even use the no contact rule is the ability to create time and space away from each other.

By wishing them a happy birthday, you’re doing the exact opposite of that.

I completely understand that it’s very tempting to wish someone a happy birthday, especially when you care about them so much. Just keep it until after the no-contact rule is over.

What Will Happen If I Don’t Wish My Ex Happy Birthday During No Contact?

Here’s the great thing about not wishing your ex happy birthday during a no-contact period; nothing big is really going to happen.

In terms of nothing big happening, I am referring to the fact that you don’t have to worry about:

  • Worrying what they will be thinking.
  • Trying to make things better on their special day.

You also don’t have to worry about if they will text you back or not, as that can certainly be an awkward situation.

Related: You Texted The Ex Happy Birthday And No Response.

On the other hand, you have to keep in mind the benefits of not breaking the no-contact rule:

  • You both get more freedom.
  • You both get time to yourself.

Another big purpose of the no-contact rule is that it allows both of you to move on with your life. By not wishing your ex a happy birthday, you get to do exactly that.

Should I Send My Ex A Happy Birthday Card During No Contact?

Similar to wishing your ex a happy birthday during no contact, I highly recommend that you don’t send them a happy birthday card either.

I completely understand that it’s going to be a hard thing to do, especially if you still have a lot of feelings for your ex (which is perfectly normal).

However, the no-contact rule means that you need to move on with your life, and that means no contact whatsoever, even if you’re not actually verbally communicating with them.

So when it comes to their birthday, you should refrain from:

  • Talking to them in person.
  • Giving them a call on the phone.
  • Contacting them on social media.
  • Sending them any type of text message.
  • Sending them a simple happy birthday card.
  • As well as simply wishing them a happy birthday, through any means.

I wouldn’t even recommend buying your ex during no-contact, as that’s a similar way to get a message across (again, even if you’re not verbally saying anything).

Related: Why Is My Ex-Boyfriend Buying Gifts For Me?

Lastly, sending them a happy birthday card can certainly complicate things. Especially if they have already gotten over you and weren’t expecting to hear from you.

It’s both hard for me to say, and I’m sure to hear as well, but sometimes, the best solution is to just move onwards and upwards with your life. Especially if your last relationship was toxic.

Should I Respond To My Ex Happy Birthday Text?

If an ex texts you happy birthday, then the ball is now in your court and you have the option of continuing the text into a full-blown conversation.

Keep in mind, this is the type of scenario where a no-contact rule hasn’t been initiated, as it’s going to play out a little bit differently.

While there is going to be no clear-cut answer when it comes to this happening, here are some of the reasons as to why you might want to respond:

  • You miss them.
  • You still have feelings for them.
  • You’re curious about where things will go.
  • You feel as if you form a stronger relationship in the future.
  • Or maybe you’re still waiting for an apology from them that they never gave.

Those are quite a few reasons as to why you might want to respond to your ex’s happy birthday text. Let’s look at the other side of things now.

Here are quite a few important reasons as to why you shouldn’t respond to your ex’s happy birthday text:

  • They were toxic.
  • You don’t want to respond.
  • You are using the no-contact rule.
  • You no longer have any feelings for them.
  • You’ve already moved on to bigger and better things.
  • You are already seeing someone and don’t want to complicate things.

So that’s the good thing about your ex wishing you a happy birthday. It’s the fact that you can choose how things end up moving forward.

Regardless of if you respond back or not, I am confident that you will ultimately make the best decision. Just make sure that you weigh out the pros and cons of your decision.

How Can I Forget My Ex’s Birthday?

One of the best ways to forget about your ex’s birthday is to remove everything that reminds you of them.

I’m going to make the assumption that if you want to forget about your ex’s birthday, then there’s a good chance that you want to forget about them in general.

In order to do that, you need to move with your life and start looking forward to a bigger, better, and brighter future.

Here are some actions that you can take to help you further forget about your ex’s birthday:

  • Throw away pictures of them.
  • Throw away (or donate) any gifts that they gave you.
  • Remove text message conversations that you had with them on your phone.
  • Get back to dating again, which is a great way to forget about past relationships.

You can also remove or block them from social media. Doing this means that they can’t message you and you can’t even see when their birthday pops up on the newsfeed (especially on Facebook).

Is It OK To Not Wish Your Ex Happy Birthday?

It is most perfectly fine, and more than OK, to not wish your ex a happy birthday. It’s a mature way of saying that you have moved on.

Remember, they are your ex for a reason. Things, unfortunately, didn’t work out, and both of you have moved on.

So don’t ever feel bad (or sorry) for not wishing your ex happy birthday on their special day. It would only be a bad thing if they weren’t your ex and you forgot to wish them a happy birthday.

However, if they do make you feel bad about it, then that’s probably a good sign as to why they are your ex in the first place. You do you.