There’s nothing more frustrating than your strict parents stopping you from seeing your boyfriend.
There’s good news though, as you can still hang out with your boyfriend, it’s just going to take some clever talking or strategizing in order for you to see him.
Let’s get started right away.
How To Hang Out With Your Boyfriend With Strict Parents: 7 Ways
If you have strict parents and want to hang out with your boyfriend, it’s not going to be an easy process. Get ready to explain yourself or come up with many excuses.
Overall, there are a lot of strategies that you can use when it comes to hanging out with your boyfriend. However, these strategies either fall into the category of:
- Really explaining yourself and getting your strict parents on your side.
- Being sneaky, making excuses, and hanging out with the boyfriend anyway.
With that being said, let’s talk about all of the best strategies that you can use to hang out with your boyfriend, starting with being reasonable with your parents.
1) Try To Reason With Your Strict Parents
Trying to reason with your strict parents is one of the hardest ways to hang out with your boyfriend, but at least you won’t have to lie or make up excuses.
In order to reason with your strict parents, you have to be able to see from their point of view. After all, why do you think that they don’t want you hanging out with him?
Here are a few possible reasons as to why they are severely limiting your love:
- They are very protective of you.
- He might have a bad reputation.
- They don’t know him well enough.
- They think that you or he aren’t responsible enough.
Regardless, you need to sit down and calmly speak with your parents about why they are being so strict. Aside from that, you need to make sure that you can answer all of their objections.
For example, if they say that they don’t know him well enough, then that’s the perfect opportunity for him to come over to your house and meet your parents.
I know I know, it doesn’t sound like the most fun in the world. However, if it’s going to allow you to hang out with your boyfriend after, then it’s certainly worth it.
So that’s the first strategy when it comes to being reasonable with your parents. Here is one more similar strategy when it comes to talking to your parents before you have to start being sneaky.
2) Butter Up Your Strict Parents
Aside from talking out the situation with your parents, you’re also going to want to butter them up. This works like a charm if they are being strict about your boyfriend.
Just keep in mind, this always won’t be the easiest tactic to utilize. If you do it properly though, then you won’t have to deal with your parents’ strictness when it comes to your boyfriend.
When it comes to buttering up your parents, it simply means that you’re going to be giving them praise in order to help get their support.
Before you go into the conversation about your boyfriend, start talking to them about something that they like. Talk about something that makes them happy or something that you can compliment them on.
That way when you transition into talking about your boyfriend, they will be much happier, upbeat, and prone to actually hearing out what you have to say.
Aside from that, you’ll also want to be highlighting some of the best aspects when it comes to your boyfriend.
After all, you’re looking for a couple of things here:
- Your parents’ approval.
- Changing your parents’ mind about your boyfriend.
If your parents don’t know a whole lot about your boyfriend yet, then what better time to highlight some of his best aspects?
Here are a few examples that you can bring up (if they happen to be true):
- Is he a straight-A student? Talk about it.
- Is he a very hard-working guy? Talk about it.
- Talk about any awards or accolades he has won.
- Don’t forget about mentioning anything that relates him to be responsible.
Many times, parents are strict when it comes to hanging out with your boyfriend because they simply don’t know or trust him yet.
The better you can make your boyfriend look in front of your parents, the more that their minds will be at ease when it comes to being able to hang out with him.
So those are the two main strategies when it comes to reasoning with your strict parents.
If neither of those strategies work and your parents still stand their ground? Then it’s time to start doing whatever it takes to finally hang out with your boyfriend.
3) Go To The Mall
So your strict parents are still holding you back from seeing your boyfriend? Then it’s a good idea to tell them that you are going to go to the mall because you need to do some shopping.
This is actually one of the best ways to see your boyfriend, for a wide variety of reasons too:
- It’s easy to do.
- You’re are, actually going to the mall.
- You don’t have to lie about where you are going.
The twist here is that you’re going to be meeting your boyfriend at the mall, but your parents don’t need to know about that, right?
While going to the mall might not be one of the most romantic and fun experiences that you can have together, it can certainly give you quite a few hours together of quality time.
If you really want to sell the fact that you went to the mall, make sure that you come home with a few new items from shops at the mall.
In fact, sell it even more. Brag and boast about something new that you got at the mall, and then show them:
Can you believe that I got this brand new purse for only $25?
Everyone is happy, because you got to hang out with your boyfriend, and you got to do some shopping at the same time. It just doesn’t get any better than that.
4) Hang Out With Your Best Friend
Your parents shouldn’t be that strict when it comes to hanging out with your boyfriend, so simply let them know that you’re going to be with your best friend for the day.
Yup, this is about as sneaky as it gets. However, sometimes this is what you’re going to need to do if you really want to see your boyfriend.
After all, it’s not very fair that you can’t hang out with your boyfriend in the first place.
If you really want to sell the fact that you were hanging out with your best friend, take a picture of you and your best friend from a previous day.
When you go to hang out with your boyfriend, wear the same outfit. That way, when you get home, you can always have picture proof that you did something fun with your “best friend”.
As I said, it’s pretty sneaky, so this doesn’t always have to be an option that you go with. If you want something a little bit more honest, then be sure to keep reading onto the next strategy.
5) Say That You’re Going To A Sports Game
If your strict parents have the lockdown when it comes to seeing your boyfriend, simply tell them that you are going to watch a sports game at night.
Now, there are quite a few options when it comes to watching a sports game in general. A few options include:
- Watching a college team sports game.
- Going to a restaurant and watching a big game on TV.
- A local high school sports game (great for showing your school support).
The fact of the matter here is that you’re going to be involved in a group activity. This is a good thing because strict parents are often worried about your safety as well as being alone.
The twist here is that when you do go to watch a sports game, you are going to meet your boyfriend there. Your parents don’t need to know that though, as maybe it was just a coincidence that you happened to see him there 😉
6) Say That You Need To Stay Longer At School
It’s hard for your parents to be strict when it comes to staying longer at school, so this is the perfect reason (and time) to hang out more with your boyfriend.
There are quite a few ways that you can make this work. Here are a few examples:
- Say that you need to work on or complete a class group project.
- Say that you need to study and it’s easiest to stay after school with your busy schedule.
Or maybe you have to serve detention, but that’s not always the best excuse. After all, it’s probably going to make your parents mad and even more strict.
Either way, school is a great way to hang out with your boyfriend, whether it be in between your classes, at lunch, or even after school is over for the day.
7) Have Your Boyfriend Visit You While You’re At Work
If you happen to have a job and your parents are still being strict, have your boyfriend visit you at a specific time when you are working.
This is something that I used to do when I was younger, and it always made my shift go by so much quicker (just because I could see and talk a little with my boyfriend).
I consider this to be a bonus strategy, but it’s great for a lot of reasons (if you have a job):
- You don’t have to lie about where you are going.
- Your parents won’t be suspicious about you seeing your boyfriend.
- You can have your boyfriend visit you during your lunch break or after work is over.
After work ends, there will always be the extra time when you can hang out with your boyfriend. Just don’t hang out for too long, especially if your parents know your work schedule and when you should be home.
If you happen to have a job in the public that is often very slow, you can even have your boyfriend come in and talk to you while you work.
Overall, this strategy is very flexible and offers very little cause for concern when it comes to hanging out with your boyfriend. If you’re capable of utilizing this strategy, then be sure to give it a try.
How Do You Tell Strict Parents You Have A Boyfriend?
It’s going to be hard to tell your strict parents that you have a boyfriend, but it’s best that you start the conversation on a really good note.
For example, start off by talking about that you have really good news to share with them:
- Be calm.
- But be upbeat and happy about it.
When you come off as if you’re the happiest that you’ve ever been, then it’s going to be very hard for your parents to shut you down when you tell them the news about your boyfriend.
If they happen to shut your good news down, then don’t worry about it too much. You still have plenty of strategies to hang out with your boyfriend, even if your parents don’t like him.
How Do You Date Someone With Strict Parents? Final Words
Dating someone when you have strict parents comes down to two things; you either need to get them to see your side of things, or you’re going to have to be a little sneaky.
Some parents will eventually come around and see your way when it comes to hanging out with your boyfriend. While it might be challenging, it’s always a breath of fresh air when you get their approval.
On the other hand, some parents seem as if they will never budge, regardless of how much you butter them up or make your significant other sound like the best person in the world.
If it comes to that, then you’re going to need to eventually meet up with them when your parents don’t know. Great spots for this include:
- The mall.
- After school.
- Sporting activities.
And anywhere else where you could potentially hang out with your best friend or a group of friends.
At the end of the day, dating someone with strict parents certainly isn’t going to make the relationship any easier. But anyone worth having is worth fighting for, right?