It’s a nice feeling when a great guy tells you that he wants you, but not so much when you find out that he has a girlfriend.
There are many reasons as to why he still wants you, such as you being a great catch or the fact that you bring more to a potential relationship compared to his current girlfriend.
However, you need to be very careful when dealing with a guy like this. Let’s talk more about it.
If He Has A Girlfriend, Why Does He Want Me?
Take it for what it is. If he has a girlfriend and he still wants you, he’s saying that you have so much more to offer compared to his current girlfriend.
It’s about as flattering as it can get. In other words, it’s the ultimate compliment for you and I recommend that you walk a little taller because of it.
I would also recommend that you proceed with caution because that’s not necessarily the type of guy that you want to hang out with, or even be associated with (unless that’s your style).
I’ll talk a little bit more about why you might want to avoid this type of behavior from a guy as we get further into the article.
Until then, let’s talk about a few more reasons as to why he’ll keep on relentlessly pursuing you, even if he has a girlfriend.
He Has A Girlfriend But Wants Me Too: Here’s Why
It’s not a good sign that he has a girlfriend but wants you as well. When it comes down to it, the reasons relate to selfishness, revenge, and looking for something new.
Let’s talk about each of these reasons, as well as a few more so that you can further understand where this guy is currently coming from.
1) He Wants You Because You’re A Great Catch
Yeah, he has a girlfriend, but he just couldn’t lay his eyes off of you. You’re attractive, and you’re able to easily capture this man’s attention.
You have to keep in mind that guys think much differently when it comes to attraction and love. For them, love can certainly be at first sight.
In this scenario, you have caught his eye and it seems like nothing will stop him from pursuing you. Heck, even having a girlfriend isn’t going to stop this guy.
On one hand, you should be grateful for the non-verbal compliment that he’s giving you. On the other hand, he should get a high-five, in the face, with a steel chair. His girlfriend would like that.
2) He Wants You Because His Relationship Is Boring
So if a guy really wants you and he still has a girlfriend? It can also be a sign that his relationship is really boring.
Keeping up with the theme that I’ll be mentioning more times throughout this article, this is never a good reason for a guy with a girlfriend to pursue you.
Maybe he’s been with his girlfriend for a little amount of time and he hasn’t liked how the relationship has gone.
Maybe he’s been with the girlfriend for a very long time and realized that the relationship is about as boring as it gets.
Regardless of what the guy thinks, if the relationship hasn’t been as fun as he might expect it to be, he has two options:
- Work it out with his girlfriend.
- End the relationship.
He chose neither of those options, and rather instead, here he is pursuing something much more fun, new, and exciting.
If you find yourself to be a highly energetic and fun girl, then you can bet your bottom dollar that this is at least one of the reasons why he pursues you so much.
3) He Wants You Because He’s Looking To Get Revenge
You might need to tread very carefully because if he wants/loves you and he still has a girlfriend? There is the possibility that he is hellbent on getting revenge.
To further explain, he doesn’t want to get revenge on you. He might want to use you to get revenge on his girlfriend. A few reasons for this include:
- His girlfriend cheated on him.
- His girlfriend treats him horribly.
- Heck, he might have just suspected that his girlfriend cheated on him.
If this is something that he actually tells you, then you need to pack all of your bags and run as far as possible from this guy.
Revenge is never a great starting point for dating or forming a relationship. Plus, if he has any type of trust issues, he will most likely drag those trust issues along to you.
Instead of getting revenge, he could be mature about it and end the relationship before moving forward and expressing his love to you.
Speaking of ending a relationship, let’s talk more about that in the next reason as to why he might want you so much.
4) He Wants You Because His Relationship Is About To End
Despite having a girlfriend, he might still be pursuing you because he knows that deep down in his mind, that the relationship is going to end any day now.
This is one of the most logical, and better reasons, as to why he started showing so much interest in you. After all, finding someone new can be the natural first step when a relationship ends.
It might be that the relationship lost all of its fun, it might be that someone did some cheating, but the fact of the matter here is that they aren’t going to be together for much longer.
It’s more respectful, for both you and his girlfriend, if he breaks things off before he falls even more for you.
So in a situation like this, you would hope that the guy actually tells you this so that you don’t have to be the “other woman”.
If he doesn’t, then we move on to the last reason as to why he can’t get his mind off of you, even when he has a steady girlfriend.
5) He Wants You Because He’s Simply A Womanizer/Player
So he says that he wants (or loves) you yet he still has a girlfriend? We might just have to look at the fact that this guy is a womanizer or is just playing you.
I put this reason last to at least give the guy the benefit of the doubt, but when you think about it, what type of guy pursues another woman when he’s already in a relationship?
That’s definitely the sign of a player. In fact, here are a few more signs that might be helpful in noticing if he is truly playing you:
- He is a huge flirt.
- He has a lot of women friends.
- He doesn’t like going on dates.
- He’s sneaky when it comes to getting his way.
- And don’t forget about having a lot of ex-girlfriends.
Having a lot of ex-girlfriends is a very big red flag here, especially if he’s still pursuing you while he has a girlfriend!
The fact of the matter is that he probably has done this before, and many times too.
At this point, you’ll need to decide if it’s worth taking a chance with someone who lacks integrity, honesty, and quality relationship skills.
If plenty of warning bells went off by him pursuing you, especially when he has a girlfriend, then you should most certainly listen to your gut feeling when it comes to this situation.
Why Didn’t He Tell Me He Has A Girlfriend?
If a guy has been pursuing you or saying that he loves you, and he didn’t tell you that he has a girlfriend? It’s either he has bad intentions or didn’t know how to bring it up.
First, let’s give the guy the benefit of the doubt.
Let’s also assume that he was talking to you back and forth, and the conversation was going very smoothly. Everything flowed nicely, and you both had a lot to say.
With that current example in mind, don’t you think that it would be kind of hard (or awkward) to randomly blurt out that he has a girlfriend?
Maybe he was just interested in having a conversation with you, and maybe he didn’t want to assume that you wanted anything more than friends.
Those scenarios are certainly possibilities, but it’s not always going to be likely, especially if you’ve gotten to some deep conversation that lets you know how he feels.
So on the other hand, if things were heating up a bit, and he didn’t tell you that he had a girlfriend, then the chances are high that he had some type of bad intentions.
In other words, he had no problem moving further with the connection and possibly cheating on his girlfriend.
There are plenty of reasons as to why he would do this, as mentioned earlier, which include:
- He finds you attractive.
- His relationship is boring.
- He’s looking to get revenge.
- His relationship is about to end.
- Or maybe he’s just the womanizing type.
At the end of the day, if you feel like you’re in a spot before things start getting hot and heavy and he hasn’t told you that he has a girlfriend? That’s bad news.
That’s the player type, and even worse, the dishonest lacking ethics type of guy.
If he’s doing that to his current girlfriend, what do you think that he will do with you in the future if things can be taken much further?
History has a way of repeating itself, and individuals like this don’t tend to learn their lessons. I’ve seen it too many times before.
So if you do care to proceed with talking with this guy, make sure that you tread softly. He’s deceived others before and will have no problem doing it to you as well.
He Says He Loves Me But Has A Girlfriend: Final Words
If he says that he loves you but he also has a girlfriend, then you need to run. Drop everything that you are doing, and run as far away from him as humanly possible.
This is the type of dishonest and disloyal behavior in a man that needs to be avoided at all costs:
- It doesn’t matter how cute he is.
- It doesn’t matter how sweet talking he is.
- It doesn’t even matter what plans he has for you.
Heck, it doesn’t even matter how tall the guy is, especially if it’s for the fact that he can still tower over you when you’re wearing high heels.
These types of situations never work out well. At least the silver lining is the fact that you can see all of the blatant warning signs from a mile away.
Nevertheless, the ball is in your court. Keep in mind that if you end up moving forward with this type of guy, that you don’t expect him to be true to you in the future.
If he has a GF but still wants you, he’s better off wasting someone else’s time who loves being lied to and played. That’s not your cup of tea, right?